Dear Auntie Sheila: The Baggage Blunder
Dear Auntie Sheila,
I’ve got this mortifying tale from my recent trip that I wish was just fiction. Here’s how it went down:
My boyfriend, Tom, and I, dating for just three months, decided to take our first big trip together. We were headed to Bali, the perfect romantic getaway—or so I thought. I was excited, not just for the beaches and sunsets, but because I planned to sprinkle a little spice into our relationship. I packed six, yes, six different sex toys in my carry-on, thinking I’d introduce them slowly, one per night, like a kinky advent calendar.
We’re at the airport, all lovey-dovey, when security decides my bag is a bit too suspicious. Out comes the first toy, then another, and another—until all six are laid out like a bizarre lineup. The security guard, trying to keep a straight face, asks if they’re mine. Before I can even explain, Tom looks at the collection, his face changes from shock to sheer horror, and he just walks away. No goodbye, no explanation, just gone.
The security guard, now chuckling, says, “Well, I’m free if you’re looking for company.” But I was in no mood for rebound humor. I took that holiday solo, and it turned out to be the best decision. It saved me from what would probably have been a very awkward vacation and confirmed that Tom was definitely not the one.
Here’s Where I Need Your Advice, Auntie Sheila
How do I introduce my kinky side to a new, seemingly “normal” dude without scaring him off? I really liked Tom, but I also have needs that I’m not willing to ignore anymore.
Sincerely,
Jenny J – Kinky Fox
Auntie Sheila’s Reply: How to Share Your Kinky Side Without Sending Him Packing
Oh, what a saga! First off, let me say you handled this like a champ. Going on that solo trip instead of letting the embarrassment ruin your plans? Iconic. And second, kudos for knowing your needs and being unapologetically yourself. Now, let’s tackle how you can navigate these “kinky waters” with the next potential Mr. Right.
1. Start With a Soft Intro
Ease into the topic. Instead of revealing everything at once, bring up sex in a general, casual way. Share thoughts on a book, TV show, or movie that hints at kink without diving into specifics. For example: “I just finished reading this book, and it touched on some interesting relationship dynamics. What are your thoughts on exploring new things in a relationship?”
This lets you gauge his openness without overwhelming him.
2. Gradual Exposure: Baby Steps, Not Giant Leaps
Think of it like introducing a new series—don’t drop the season finale first! Start with a small fantasy or a mild interest during a flirty conversation. If he’s intrigued, you can gradually reveal more.
For example:
- “I’ve always found the idea of trying something different exciting. How do you feel about exploring together?”
This gives him a chance to share his feelings while keeping the tone light and exploratory.
3. Use Humor to Break the Ice
Humor can disarm even the most awkward conversations. You don’t have to tell him this particular story (though it’s hilarious), but sharing a lighthearted anecdote can make the topic less intimidating.
Example:
“I once packed something a little risqué for a trip, and it almost ended up on display at the airport!”
A little laughter can go a long way toward making him comfortable.
4. Be Direct, but Gentle
Once you feel comfortable, be honest about what you want—but keep it tactful. A great line might be:
“I enjoy exploring different aspects of intimacy, and I was wondering if that’s something you’d be open to as well?”
This approach is clear without being confrontational, and it leaves room for an honest conversation about compatibility.
5. Respect Boundaries and Focus on Consent
Not everyone will share your tastes, and that’s okay. The key is to ensure there’s mutual consent and comfort in your conversations and actions. If he’s not into it, respect his boundaries—but also recognize that intimacy compatibility is essential for a healthy relationship.
Why You Dodged a Bullet With Tom
Tom walking away at the airport was likely a blessing in disguise. If he couldn’t handle this situation with a little grace or humor, he probably wasn’t the right match for your adventurous spirit. Relationships thrive on openness, trust, and shared values—including in the bedroom.
Final Words: Embrace Your True Self
The right person will not only accept your kinky side but will celebrate it. Keep being confident, honest, and true to yourself, and you’ll find someone who matches your energy.
Good luck on your next romantic adventure—hopefully without a baggage blunder this time!
Warm Regards,
Auntie Sheila
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